About Paul Elam

First, please accept my thanks for visiting my website.  It is the product of ten-plus years of writing and activism for men and boys – as well as a 30-year career as a counselor. My decade-long public journey into an alternative narrative for men started in 2009 when I launched A Voice for Men (avoiceformen.com).

That website attracted attention (little of it positive) from mainstream media across the world. The site, and yours truly, were attacked by media outlets from America to Australia and most countries in between. It seems that seeing men in a positive light and defending them from the now common practice of male bashing doesn’t fit well in popular culture.

Something else happened during that time, though, and what happened was a game changer. I began to hear from men all over the world with messages of appreciation for my work. Men who had been through ruinous divorces. Men who had been flattened by corrupt family courts. Men who had sold their souls in marriages trying and failing to make a woman happy, only to be rejected and abandoned for their efforts.

Frequently I heard from men who told me that they thought they were crazy until they found my work. I even heard from men who told me they were suicidal but now had hope for their lives because of the efforts I was putting forth.

Then, in 2013, I was contacted by an award-winning filmmaker named Cassie Jaye. She told me she wanted to do a documentary on the men’s movement and that my work was the first she had encountered in this area. As it turned out, her original intent in wanting to do the documentary was to do what the mainstream media had already been doing for years. A hit piece, painting people in the men’s movement as bitter woman haters and nothing more.

She spent the next year interviewing men’s advocates, recording and editing as we made our case for men’s issues. That experience was a world-changer for Cassie Jaye. Before she was done shooting the award-winning documentary, The Red Pill, she was openly supportive of men’s issues and even made a public proclamation in the film of rejecting her long-embraced identity as a feminist.

Hearing the cold, hard truth changed Cassie Jaye, as it has so many other people who take the time to listen.

What I have learned from this odyssey, this attempt at righting some very glaring social wrongs, is that helping men and boys is still met with formidable resistance and the ire of hateful ideologues. Indeed, the idea of men having problems and getting help with them makes even the most average of people uncomfortable.

That makes my work all the more important. It makes being of service to men my professional calling.

So, please, enjoy your time on this site. Try watching some of the videos and reading some of the blog posts. And should you find that you could use some support in dealing with any of the countless challenges faced by men in daily life, please consider reaching out. I am always standing by.